Part of making it as a creator is the luxury of having an agent — someone who pitches your talent to others, advocates for your rights in contract negotiations, and makes sure the value of your talent is captured to the maximum extent possible in every situation.
Having an agent’s representation has long been the privilege of elite actors, authors, and athletes. But an agent’s core service — representing and amplifying a person’s talent to others — is something everyone should have the opportunity to benefit from.
One stellar literary agent was a game-changer for me as a writer and…
A handshake is a ritual of imitation that signals equality and peace. Breaking its rules ever-so-slightly reveals the extent of our mimetic impulses.
Covid-19 has threatened the survival of the handshake. (It turns out that a handshake is not very hygienic, and most of us have gotten used to elbow bumps or Namaste gestures anyway.)
But what if do we lose if we lose handshakes? Does it even matter?
If we look closer, we find that handshakes are not just some superficial greeting (they can also be that.) At their root, they are a ritual of imitation.
Understanding the role…
In 2019, my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. The decline had come swiftly. A week later, my mom fell and broke her femur bone — the biggest bone in the body.
She called me at 8:00 a.m. on a Thursday morning while she was lying on the floor of their home in Grand Rapids, MI. When I received the call, I was at my house in Washington (DC), making breakfast and preparing to go to the university to teach my 9:40 a.m. class to about 140 undergraduate students.
Fortunately, my dad was cognizant enough to call an ambulance right…
What’s really happening when someone plays hard to get? There have been plenty of psychological explanations, usually involving the person’s insecurity and lack of vulnerability. The primary reason that people engage in this behavior, though, is a fundamental law of human desire that is rarely, if ever, acknowledged:
The desire that a person has for another person (or thing) is completely tied to how the desire for that person or thing is modeled to them by other people.
In this article, I’m going to explain what that means.
If we understand how models of desire affect what we want, we…